The Healthy Divorce: Is It Possible?
Many people may believe there is no way to have a healthy divorce. True, divorce can increase your stress, compromise your immune system, and leave you feeling less than well at a time when you need to be at your best.
Divorce is a tough situation no matter how you look at it, but who says it has to be dysfunctional? A healthy divorce is possible. By approaching divorce from a healthy standpoint and planning accordingly, you can divorce while still preserving your health and peace of mind.
The goal in a healthy divorce is to uncouple amicably and cooperatively, create a fair separation agreement, and make sure your child’s best interests are protected in the process. A couple can move on from a healthy divorce better able to communicate and co-parent into the future.
If you have a child together, this working relationship you developed during the divorce can reap benefits for years to come as you raise your child. As hard as it may be to envision a peaceable divorce, know that it is possible and it is worth it.
Divorcing healthily is a matter of how you approach it. Taking your divorce to court leaves little room for communication between you and your spouse and often monopolizes resources and time that could be better spent elsewhere.
The courtroom atmosphere is adversarial and, before you know it, you could be thinking only of what you want rather than what is fair to both of you. The key to healthy divorce is recognizing that and doing what you can to keep your head high and your thoughts on fairness, compassion, and the well-being of your child.
Divorce mediation can facilitate a healthy divorce. So can staying in close communication with your spouse over the care and custody of your child while the divorce is worked out. Filing your divorce as uncontested removes some of the hard feelings divorces can elicit. Mediation is a perfect time to work on your communication skills with your spouse and make sure the divorce is fair. A fair divorce, one where both spouses are treated fairly and are satisfied with the outcome, is a healthy divorce.
If you have questions about how you can divorce healthily, you may want to speak with a Massachusetts divorce mediator about your options. While you can’t expect to be happy and content throughout the entire divorce process, you can work to have a divorce that will contribute to your happiness in the future.
Do you have questions about how you can divorce peaceably? If so, Mediation Advantage Services can help. Experienced in divorce mediation, family law attorney Polly A. Tatum can help you and your spouse navigate the mediation process, helping you have a healthy divorce. Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson. Call our office at (508) 795-1557,fill out our online form, or email us at [email protected] today to schedule your Complimentary Mediation Success Planning Session. You can also sign up for our eNewsletter or download our free e-book for more information regarding divorce in Massachusetts.