Moving On: Tips for Taking That First Step
Moving On Is Normal
While divorce marks the end of a relationship, it also marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life. In the midst of divorce drama, many people find it difficult to look to the future. But that future is near, and once you do the work of finalizing your divorce you face the work of moving on.
Moving on after a divorce isn’t as easy as jumping back into the dating game. Realize this is still a very crucial time in your life and one in which you should take care to not only define the new you but learn from your past experiences.
Here are a few tips to help you do so:
Give it time
There is no typical timeline of a divorce, nor is there one for moving on after a divorce. Sometimes people feel like they need to move on and adjust immediately. Some people can do this, but many others can’t. Take your time and remember truly moving on is a work in progress.
Connect with who you were before marriage
Maybe you had interests or hobbies that you didn’t maintain once you married. You may not have the same interests, but it is worth spending some time thinking about what you enjoyed doing before you found your spouse. You may be able to reconnect with something you used to enjoy.
And, if not, it will be a lesson in self-awareness.
Don’t try to redefine who you are
Some people do this after divorce because they feel like they need to renovate their self-image. Unless your spouse changed you in a bad way, take comfort in knowing it was the marriage that ended, not you. Part of moving on will be accepting where you are in your life, so don’t feel like you have to change everything to move past the whole experience.
Moving on happily and healthily after divorce is part personal determination and part planning. You can plan to ease into your new life by trying to divorce amicably with your spouse. Consider divorce mediation if you’d rather cooperatively work out the terms and conditions of your divorce instead of getting caught in the cycle of courtroom battles.
Mediation can help you stay in the driver’s seat of your divorce and get through the process economically and efficiently. This can accelerate your peace of mind so you can focus on moving on to a new you. If you have questions about the divorce process in Massachusetts, contact Mediation Advantage Services for expert help. Experienced in divorce mediation, Polly A. Tatum can provide you with the information and guidance needed to help you mediate your divorce amicably. Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson. Call our office at (508) 795-1557, fill out our online form, or email us at [email protected] today to schedule your Complimentary Mediation Success Planning Session. You can also sign up for our eNewsletter or download our free e-book for more information regarding divorce in Massachusetts.