How to Work with an Intimidating Spouse
Divorce may sound like an arduous task at first thought. In truth, the divorce process is not something many people look forward to. Apart from the end of a relationship, divorce is the ending of a certain kind of contract. The impersonal side of divorce, the business aspects such as property division and alimony orders, do commonly promote conflict. These are the areas where it is not uncommon for one spouse to intimidate the other into agreeing to his or her demands.
Working with an intimidating spouse in a divorce may lead you to compromise on what you feel you deserve in order to dispel unnecessary conflict.
This often leads to a divorce where one spouse walks away feeling like they were taken advantage of. It is important to know how to deal with any intimidation tactics your spouse may try to use against you. One of the best things you can do to deal with an intimidating spouse is to get an advocate. This could be a divorce mediator, an attorney, or even a friend. Discuss your concerns with your advocate so you can get a better understanding of what you want and what you feel is fair. Simply knowing these things will help arm you for intimidating conflict if it does arise.
Many people avoid dealing with their intimidating spouse altogether by hiring an attorney and letting a judge decide on everything. This can be a costly mistake.
Divorce mediation, as an alternative to litigation, is a cost-effective way to reach an agreement with your spouse over the major issues of the divorce. While it may seem impossible to sit down and work out an agreement with your spouse while they try to intimidate you into giving them what they want, divorce mediators are skilled in diffusing conflict from both sides, allowing for more open and respectful communication. When your attorneys are battling everything out in a courtroom, you simply don’t have the chance to remain amicable in the face of conflict. And, to make matters worse, it is not uncommon for intimidating spouses to hire attorneys who use intimidation tactics themselves. If you have concerns about tactics your spouse may be using on you to get what they want in the divorce, consider speaking with an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator about your options. Oftentimes, a good mediator will be able to disarm intimidating spouses and help both spouses see eye-to-eye on their separation agreement.
Are you going through a divorce and are concerned about working with your intimidating spouse?
Mediation Advantage Services can help. Experienced in divorce mediation, Polly A. Tatum can help ensure your divorce mediation is amicable and effective, helping preserve your peace of mind. Based in historic Worcester, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson. Call our office at (508) 795-1557, fill out our online form, or email us at [email protected] today to schedule your Complimentary Mediation Success Planning Session. You can also sign up for our eNewsletter or download our free guide for more information regarding divorce in Massachusetts.