Divorce Demands: Can the Mediator Convince My Spouse?
If you are heading into the divorce mediation process intent on making divorce demands, you may end up working harder than you have to. Trying to convince your spouse to give you want is often counterproductive in the mediation process. Rarely can a spouse make demands in a divorce without taking the matter to court, and taking your divorce to court is like taking a gamble on whether or not the outcome ends up in your favor.
Divorce mediation doesn’t center on making divorce demands and getting the mediator to convince your spouse to meet those demands. This is sometimes the mindset divorce litigation encourages, but mediation is non-adversarial. The mediator’s role is not to convince either spouse of anything. In fact, a mediator must remain neutral and help in a way that benefits both spouses.
Mediation is often more successful than taking your divorce to a Massachusetts Probate and Family Court because it focuses on problem solving rather than demands and counter-demands.
If you are dead set on getting what you want in your divorce, chances are you will end up in court, and your divorce could take far more resources and time than you are willing to part with. In the end, neither spouse may get what he or she wants because of the judge’s decision.
Consider working with an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator if you are concerned about getting an outcome that is beneficial to you.
People often hire divorce attorneys if they want to make divorce demands and plan on remaining firm on them. This can result in a long battle that, in the end, may not satisfy either spouse. A skilled mediator can provide you the guidance and structure needed to reach an agreement with your spouse on the terms and conditions of your divorce. Mediation is non-adversarial and is focused on negotiation rather than opposition. Don’t think this means you will have to give up on everything you want. Though you won’t have the chance to make any demands and remain productive, a mediator can give you and your spouse pointers on how to problem solve while you create your separation agreement.
Do you have questions about important issues in your divorce? If so, Mediation Advantage Services can help. Experienced in divorce mediation, family law attorney Polly A. Tatum can help you and your spouse navigate the mediation process, helping you create a separation agreement to meets your needs. Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson. Call our office at (508) 795-1557, fill out our online form, or email us at [email protected] today to schedule your Complimentary Mediation Success Planning Session. You can also sign up for our eNewsletter or download our free e-book for more information regarding divorce in Massachusetts.