Before Moving Out, Have This Discussion First
Moving Out and Moving On
Moving out during a divorce is quite common. Typically, one spouse will leave the home once the spouses have decided to divorce. Many think it’s what is best for the children, especially if there is ongoing conflict and animosity. Moving out can alleviate household tension. It can also help both spouses with moving on. Nevertheless, it can be traumatic for your child. To ensure your decision to move out is wise, here are some issues you should discuss with your spouse first.
You should know that neither spouse has to leave the house in a divorce, unless there is abuse or violence. Talk to your spouse about the reasoning for moving out. Is it necessary? Is there anything you can do to make it less traumatic for your child?
You will create new expenses if you move out: the living expenses of the second household. In the midst of a divorce, making room in the budget for this can complicate finances. Discuss whether you can realistically afford it. Furthermore, a new household requires furniture, appliances, and other household goods. You shouldn’t divide these items hastily.
Take your time to make sure you fairly divide these belongings so that you both have the basics.
Moving out could mean the remaining spouse struggles to pay the expenses of the family home. This could jeopardize your home if you fall behind on mortgage payments.
It can also make it harder to sell the house during the divorce if things fall into disrepair.
Moving out isn’t your only option. It is possible to remain in the same household amicably during the divorce process. This can save money and enable you both to provide support for your child. Talk to your spouse about your concerns. If either of you are eager to move on, you may be able to speed up the process of your divorce by mediating instead of taking it to court. Mediation allows you to divorce at your own pace. In the meantime, you could create a living agreement that provides some boundaries while you live under the same roof. This is also something you may be able to address in mediation.
If you have questions about moving out during divorce, contact Mediation Advantage Services for expert help. Experienced in divorce mediation, Polly A. Tatum can provide you the information and guidance needed to make wise decisions during the divorce. Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton,
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