A Second Chance: Tips for Starting Your New Life
What to Do for the New You
Divorce is life altering, but the second chance you are getting to start a new life for yourself can reap great rewards. A chance to start a new life for yourself is something to celebrate. Divorce can be liberating if you take advantage of your new personal journey, but not everyone knows where to take the first step. Here are a few tips that I find very useful in helping those divorcing take advantage of their new lease on life.
Unless you are already involved in another relationship, this is a great time to reconnect with your single self. Being single can be grounding and can help you realize your individual interests and inclinations. Define your single self. Being confident about who you are can attract meaningful relationships in the future. Take your time on this one. You may have some emotional baggage to unload or issues to work through. You deserve to be free from your ties to the past before you embark on your new life.
Try something new! Even if you had a smooth split, you probably need to blow off some steam afterward. Visit someplace new, try a new hobby, or take a lesson. Experiencing new things during this important time can do wonders to help you appreciate this second chance.
Never underestimate the power of a new experience. Take this time to travel, be creative, challenge yourself, and really see what life has to offer.
And, along the same lines, break your routine. Chances are some of the things you used to enjoy may not be appealing anymore now that you are not with your spouse. Breaking out of your routine, by going to new places and eating new foods, for example, can help you build new, positive memories on which to base your new life.
Set goals and plan. Being single again may present some economic challenges, at least at first. Try to do what you can to ensure your financial future will be secure. Your long-term happiness after divorce will depend on this very crucial task. Now is the time to make sure you have a savings or retirement account for the future.
It’s important to remember that if you have children, what you do in your new life will affect them as much as you. Make sure your change doesn’t negatively affect your child. Some children may crave routine after a divorce, and that is OK. Also, keep in mind; you are working on yourself for the benefit of your child.
They will fare better after the divorce if you keep taking steps to heal and move on.
Do you have questions about planning for life after divorce? If so, Mediation Advantage Services can help.
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