The Danger of the Win or Lose Mindset
Divorce can be adversarial. Many divorces end up being a battle between two spouses for assets, belongings, and parental rights. Contested divorces tend to encourage a win or lose mentality. You can win in your divorce by getting what you want and making your spouse lose. But there are other ways you can win in your divorce without engaging in a bitter courtroom battle.
Rethinking the Win
Truly winning in your divorce should mean being happy with the outcome. The best way to be happy with the outcome of your divorce isn’t by letting attorneys handle the negotiations or letting a judge decide. Rather, couples fare a better chance of being happy if they negotiate a separation agreement together and file for an uncontested divorce. If you think working out an agreement on all the terms and conditions of your divorce with your spouse will be hard to do alone, consider working with an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator. A mediator can help you with the hard part: working through conflict and keeping negotiations productive. Divorce mediation is a great option for couples that want to stay in control of their divorce but also want to have some guidance when needed.
Mediation can help couples stay on-track during their divorce negotiations, but what is particularly unique about mediation is that it can allow the couple to be creative with the separation agreement. Having the freedom to decide how to divide your assets, how to share your parenting time, and how to arrange for alimony and child support can go a long way toward making you feel empowered in the process.
Reaching for that Win/Win Outcome
The outcome of your divorce will affect you and your child for years to come. It is understandable that you may want to dig your heels in and fight for what you want. But in the end, this approach could leave you unsatisfied and disappointed. Feeling like you can win in your divorce is important, but know your options before you prepare for battle. There are ways you can help ensure the outcome is favorable and reasonable to both you and your spouse while keeping you out of the courtroom battle mentality.
If you have questions about how to have a painless divorce, Mediation Advantage Services can assist you. Experienced in divorce mediation, Polly A. Tatum can help you and your spouse efficiently mediate your divorce. Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson. Call our office at (508) 645-6374, fill out our online form, or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org today to schedule your Complimentary Mediation Success Planning Session. You can also sign up for our eNewsletter or download our free e-book for more information regarding divorce in Massachusetts.