What to Do With Friendly Divorce Advice
If you are heading into a divorce, you may be looking for advice. One of the first places we tend to receive divorce advice is from our friends, solicited or not. You can take advice from friends on many other things, but when it comes to divorce don’t follow their suggestions blindly. Make sure the advice is applicable to your divorce before trying it out. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t blindly follow divorce advice from your friends.
Every divorce is different.
Your friends know you well and have only your best interests in mind, but that doesn’t mean their advice will be good. What worked for your friend may not work for you. The reason for this is simple; every divorce is unique and requires a different game plan. Listen to the reasoning behind their advice, and see if it is relevant in your situation.
They just want to see you happy.
This isn’t a bad thing. Feel lucky that you have friends that care enough to offer advice to get you through this tough time. When it comes to divorce advice, however, you may benefit more from no-nonsense, practical tips on Massachusetts divorce that can help guide you through the process. This may not be what you want to hear or what your best friend feels comfortable saying, but it’s what you need to know.
They are on your side and your side only.
Your friends may be siding with you to help you through this trying time, even if they liked your spouse. Here is where the drama can cause more harm than good. Your friends may not be keeping in mind how it’s important that the divorce is fair to both you and your spouse. Taking your spouse to the cleaners won’t really help you heal in a healthy way. Remaining amicable, striving toward a fair and equitable outcome, and always protecting your relationship as co-parents is far more important than getting even or getting everything in the divorce. Your friends may want to see you walking away with every dime, however, so their advice may not be best suited.
It’s your journey, not theirs.
Remember that even if they’ve been through a divorce themselves, advice from friends is coming from a place of experience: their experience. Your experience will be wholly different, and it needs to be your own.
It is OK to seek and listen to divorce advice from your friends during this time. Be careful when following advice from friends, though. While their intentions may be good, they may not know exactly how to best help you. Considering speaking with an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator if you want to devise a divorce mediation plan that is uniquely your own. A mediator can help you and your spouse tailor your divorce experience to your specific needs.
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