It is easy to leave a lot of things unattended to during a divorce. You may find yourself neglecting commitments, friends, family, household work, or even yourself. It is very important to have a set of self-care practices you follow throughout your divorce. You have to support your children and focused on a better future: two things that are difficult to do when you are not at your best.
Self-care practices are practices that help you stay in tune with your body and your emotions. They can help you keep your stress to a minimum during the divorce and learn about yourself in the process. Here are a few that I find particularly helpful in divorce.
It’s easy to neglect your health during divorce. Routines are changing, and you have more on your plate. Making the time to exercise and prepare healthy meals may be difficult, especially if you are now driving your child between visits with your spouse. The stress from divorce can weaken your immune system and make you more prone to sickness. Prioritizing your health is important to emerge from the divorce feeling healthy and able to take on the new challenges you will face.
Envision your future.
You aren’t doing yourself any favors by keeping your focus on the divorce. Looking out for your own well-being includes looking toward a brighter future. Take this as an opportunity to think about what you want to do after the divorce. Is it time for a career change? Considering a move? Want to take on a new hobby or start a business? Divorce can sometimes provide the extra time and freedom needed to start new ventures. Seize this opportunity, and make sure you have something to look forward to.
Stay in touch with your feelings.
For many, divorce is a time of too many feelings. Some are good, some are bad, and some are confusing. Simply having feelings isn’t very self-caring. Thinking about, writing down, or discussing your feelings, however, can help you better understand how the divorce is affecting you. This can be a learning experience if you let it, and one of the best ways to practice self-care is to try to better understand yourself.
Work on your single self.
One of the best self-care practices you can follow during divorce is simply thinking about your new single life. Whether you’ve been married for five or twenty years, contemplating how your life will change can help mentally prepare you for what happens once your divorce is finalized.
Nourish your other relationships.
You are uncoupling from your spouse, but that doesn’t mean you have to neglect other relationships in your life. Many people tend to withdraw from friends and family during divorce. While this is a natural response to a stressful situation, it can leave you without the valuable support you need.
Consider divorce mediation if you are concerned about staying healthy and maintaining your peace of mind during divorce. Mediation can help you and your spouse divorce amicably and efficiently, helping you both stay at your best.
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